Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens. A good marriage must be created. The little things are the big things. It is never being too old to hold hands. It is remembering to say "I love you" at least once a day.
It is never going to sleep angry. It is at no time taking the other for granted; the courtship should not end with the honeymoon, it should continue through all the years.
It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives. It is standing together facing the world. It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family. It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy.
It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways. It is not expecting one person to wear a halo, or the other to have the wings of an angel. It is not looking for perfection in each other. It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humor. It is having the capacity to forgive and forget. It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.
It is finding room for the things of the spirit. It is a common search for the good and the beautiful. It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal. It is not only marrying the right partner, It is being the right partner.
BRIDE/GROOM are you ready to enter into marriage with BRIDE/GROOM, freely, voluntarily and without any conditions? If so, please respond "I Am".
BRIDE/GROOM are you ready to enter into marriage with BRIDE/GROOM, freely, voluntarily and without any conditions? If so, please respond "I Am".
Marriage also bestows enormous private and social advantages on those who choose to marry. Civil marriage is at once a deeply personal commitment to another human being and highly public celebration of the ideals of mutuality, companionship, intimacy, fidelity, and family... because it fulfills yearnings for security, safe haven, and connection that express our common humanity, civil marriage is an esteemed institution, and the decision whether and whom to marry is among life's momentous acts of self-definition.
PLEASE TURN AND FACE ONE ANOTHER AND JOIN HANDS TO EXPRESS YOUR VOWS OF LOVE AND DEVOTION EACH TO THE OTHER.
Since it is your intention to enter into marriage, join your hands, and declare your consent (before these witnesses)...
BRIDE/GROOM look into BRIDE/GROOM eyes and repeat after me:
BRIDE/GROOM, I come here today to join your life for years, I pledge to be true to you, to respect you, and to grow with you through the years. We are many things to each other, May only those best qualities continue to shine, And may our bond continue to grow stronger. Time may pass, fortune may smile, trials may come; No matter what we may encounter together, I vow here today that this love will be my only love. I will make my home in your heart from this day forward.
BRIDE/GROOM look into BRIDE/GROOM eyes and repeat after me:
BRIDE/GROOM, I come here today to join your life for years, I pledge to be true to you, to respect you, and to grow with you through the years. We are many things to each other, may only those best qualities continue to shine, and may our bond continue to grow stronger. Time may pass, fortune may smile, trials may come; no matter what we may encounter together, I vow here today that this love will be my only love. I will make my home in your heart from this day forward.
All here today are here to witness the Marriage of BRIDE/GROOM and BRIDE/GROOM. After today, the support of all of you will offer strength. You should always remind this couple of the following: When selfishness shows itself, grant generosity; when mistrust is a temptation, give moral strength; when there is misunderstanding, give patience and gentleness; if suffering becomes a part of their lives, give them a strong faith and an abiding love.
May I have the rings please?
BRIDE/GROOM, take BRIDE/GROOM left hand in yours, and as you place this ring on BRIDE/GROOM finger, repeat after me:
BRIDE/GROOM, what I have to give you is, the promise to take you as my only love from this day forward, to stand by your side, to listen when you speak, to comfort you when you cry, and to join your laughter with my own. Take this ring, and be part of my life forever.
BRIDE/GROOM, take BRIDE/GROOM left hand in yours, and as you place this ring on HIS/HER finger, repeat after me:
BRIDE/GROOM, what I have to give you is, the promise to take you as my only love from this day forward, to stand by your side, to listen when you speak, to comfort you when you cry, and to join your laughter with my own. Take this ring, and be part of my life forever.
Your gift to each other for your wedding today has been your wedding rings. The wedding ring is a symbol of the vows taken here today... a circle of wholeness perfect in form. The unending circle of a ring is a sign of fidelity, the pledged faithfulness of a couple to each other. These rings mark the beginning of an unending journey together filled with wonder and surprises, laughter and tears, celebration and joy. May these rings glow in the warmth and happiness of you both today.
There may be times filled with happiness, sorrow, tears or laughter, whatever it may be, remember love has given you wings; your journey begins today; BRIDE/GROOM and BRIDE/GROOM, if there is anything you remember of this marriage ceremony, remember the love that brought you here today, it is only love which can make your marriage a glorious union, and it is by love that your marriage will endure.